{"id":84,"date":"2013-01-31T18:45:31","date_gmt":"2013-01-31T18:45:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/?p=84"},"modified":"2013-01-31T18:46:44","modified_gmt":"2013-01-31T18:46:44","slug":"words-to-try-to-live-by","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/?p=84","title":{"rendered":"Words to (try) to live by?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In my search for topics for you I can across this list of Zen habit by Craig Ballantyne. It\u2019s pretty good and pretty difficult, for me but is something to strive towards and I\u2019ll have to adjust them a bit to fit for me and my chosen lifestyle. It\u2019s a quick read and a good list, please take 5 minutes.<br \/>\n1. I go to bed and get up at the same time 7 days per week (9 p.m. and 5 a.m.) I do not deviate from this schedule unless it is due to an important (and this word is not used lightly) work or social function. I stick to a diet of whole, natural foods, avoid caffeine after 1 p.m., and avoid alcohol within 3 hours of bedtime.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Most of this I could do and I\u2019ll just have to start drinking earlier. I like going to bed at 9 pm but the 5 am will be hard, I\u2019ll shoot for 6 am.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>2. I write for at least 60 minutes first thing every morning.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I only want to write for business and my blog. I\u2019m changing this to read for 60 minutes<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>3. I do not check email before 9 a.m.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I like and I will try it!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>4. I do not talk on the phone unless it is a scheduled interview or conference call.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>I like but not too much. I will do business phone calls only during the business part of my day. But that doesn\u2019t include my sister or mom<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>5. I create a to-do list at the end of every workday and I follow that to-do list starting first thing the next morning. I also perform my daily readings at the end of every workday, and I write in a gratitude journal. I am thankful every day for identifying my mission and what I wanted to do with my life at such a young age.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I do the \u2018to-do-list\u2019 and have for 20 years. I like it. I won\u2019t write in a journal, I did it once for a few months, but it\u2019s not my thing<\/strong><\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>6. I do not engage in confrontations with anyone, in-person or online. This is a waste of time and energy. If I have caused harm, I apologize and fix the situation. However, if someone simply doesn\u2019t like something I have done or something that I do or disagrees with me, that is fine, but I\u2019m not going to get into an argument about it. For any confrontation-like situation, I simply take a deep breath, relax, breathe out, and re-focus my efforts back on my work and goals.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I\u2019m REALLY trying to do this one, but sometimes it REALLY difficult!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>7. I am guided by these two phrases: a) \u201cNothing matters.\u201d \u2013 By this, I mean that arguing on the internet changes nothing, I can only work towards the major, massive goals that I have set for my life\u2026that I have a vision of helping others, and there is no time to let petty arguments stand in the way. b) \u201cIt will all be over soon.\u201d \u2013 This serves me in both good times and in bad. In hard times, such as bad days, troubled times, or intense physical effort or discomfort, I know that it will all be over soon. A small amount of suffering now will be forgotten later when I will enjoy the rewards of my work. And in good times, I will remember that life is short, and I must make things count now, and no matter how good things are going I must never let myself become soft and lazy, because I have too much to accomplish in such a short time.<br \/>\n<em><strong>I like!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>8. Everything that happens to me \u2013 good and bad \u2013 is my personal responsibility. I blame no one but myself. These are the choices I\u2019ve made \u2013 this is the life I\u2019m living. I will accept the consequences of my actions.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I like!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>9. I will not stop until I have helped 1 Million men and women transform their lives \u2013 physically, financially, or emotionally.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Hmm\u2026.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>10. I will not be a person I don\u2019t want to be. I will not be petty, jealous, or envious, or give in to any other of those lazy emotions. I will not gossip or speak badly of others, no matter who I am with or what environment I am in. I will not be negative when it is easier to be positive. I will not hurt others when it is possible to help. I will know the temptations, situations and environments in life that I must avoid, and I will, in fact, avoid them, even if it means loosening relationships with others who \u201clive\u201d in those environments. It\u2019s my life and that matters more than what other people think of me.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I like and I am still working on.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>11. \u201cI will always keep the child within me alive.\u201d \u2013 Frank McKinney. I will laugh every day. That\u2019s not hard when you have the friends \u2013 and dog \u2013 that I have. And if they don\u2019t make me laugh, there\u2019s plenty of comedy on Netflix.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Of course!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>12. \u201cI will write with honesty and feeling.\u201d \u2013 Ted Nicholas. I\u2019ve long since giving up caring about how others choose to judge me. What matters more than others\u2019 opinions is the number of people that I can help by sharing advice and encouragement in my writing. The most powerful songs are written by songwriters who bare their souls. So screw it, let\u2019s do it. Let\u2019s put it all out there. I\u2019m not going to help as many people as I could if I keep the \u201creal info\u201d to myself. I also understand now, better than ever, that sometimes you have to \u201cwrite to repel\u201d in order to strongly attract the readers you desire.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>EXACTLY!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In my search for topics for you I can across this list of Zen habit by Craig Ballantyne. 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