{"id":14,"date":"2011-11-26T22:53:44","date_gmt":"2011-11-26T22:53:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/?p=14"},"modified":"2011-11-26T22:53:44","modified_gmt":"2011-11-26T22:53:44","slug":"men-and-age","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/?p=14","title":{"rendered":"Men and Age"},"content":{"rendered":"

I\u2019ve been stewing for a week about what to say. \u00a0Finally I\u2019m choosing my first topic. Men! Yes, I know \u201cwhy do we always have to talk about them\u201d? \u00a0I don\u2019t know, but it seems we do so let\u2019s get it over with so we can move on!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Specifically I want to talk about their age.<\/p>\n

Four plus years ago I divorced a man who was 15 years older than me. Most of the marriage we were at different phases of life. I was 30 he\u00a0was 45, I was 40, he was 55. He tried to be young at heart but we were really from different eras and always at different phases in our careers. Most of the marriage I was building my career and he was looking at retirement.<\/p>\n

So we divorced and I dated a guy who was 15 years younger than me! Woohoo, way to go! That lasted four months. Then I dated a guy who was 9 years younger with 6 year old twins! \u00a0That one would last. NOT. We\u2019d never be in the same phase of life! There were some minor dates in between but all were still younger than me.<\/p>\n

Now, it\u2019s been about a year and half since I\u2019ve been in a long-term relationship (5 months or more, from my perspective).\u00a0 And I\u2019ve had plenty of time to think. Guys are difficult and confusing no matter what their age! Dating a young guy doesn\u2019t make you feel young, that comes from within<\/p>\n

Age is important, some people can bridge a huge gap but many can\u2019t. It\u2019s very difficult to do because often the other person is coming from
\na different space, history, time, generation, era, whatever. You need to have some things in common and you don\u2019t often listen to the same music if you\u2019re 10+ years apart. You couldn\u2019t have grown up together; one of you was already grown! Most likely you didn\u2019t attend the same schools (maybe college, if you went back for more!), you won\u2019t retire together, your bodies won\u2019t age together (more on that one another time).<\/p>\n

So, over the past year I have refused to look at men more than 5 years older. I often considered my optimal age preference to be about 40-50, but I\u2019m starting to think even 40 is too young. So my preferred age range is now 45-55. I think a little err to either side is preferable.<\/p>\n

No matter their age I have 2 key questions for dating \u2013 what\u2019s their relationship with\u00a0their mother? (use your own judgment on whether you run or not). And are\u00a0they a far<\/em> right-wing conservative? Fine if you are, we just can\u2019t date. Same might apply to the far left but I\u2019ve not dated any of them yet.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll let you know how my new perspective works!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I\u2019ve been stewing for a week about what to say. \u00a0Finally I\u2019m choosing my first topic. Men! Yes, I know \u201cwhy do we always have to talk about them\u201d? \u00a0I don\u2019t know, but it seems we do so let\u2019s get … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=14"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":17,"href":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14\/revisions\/17"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=14"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=14"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/midlifemyth.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=14"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}